Not too long ago, a dear friend’s integrity was questioned because she wouldn’t allow someone to twist an organization for personal advantage. So she was blamed for “misrepresenting” the organization. Shortly before that, another friend saw a business relationship blow up because she stood firm to the original agreements. So she was blamed for “misrepresenting” her level of dedication. Recently, a vendor quit because I stopped accepting his excuses and wouldn’t give yet another extension. So I was blamed for “misrepresenting” the project.
Is it just me or is there a pattern here?
Oh yes, there is definitely a pattern. We have all bemoaned the deterioration of responsibility and the proliferation of blame, but right now what interests me more is the person who has been targeted simply for standing true because when it happened to me, my feelings got hurt and I got mad. In other words, I took it personally.
It never feels good to be falsely accused even when it is the result of a genuine misunderstanding, but when it is malicious or spiteful or someone is lashing out for not getting their own way or to avoid accepting their own responsibility, it eats at the core of your heart and soul. It hurts.